Why do so many people worry about attachment parenting leading to dependent kids?
Those who don’t understand what the principles of attachment parenting are can often confuse meeting a child’s needs with stifling independence. An infant is at the beginning of her experience as a human. She begins her life without the ability to help herself in any way. She is entirely dependent on her caretaker. One aspect of meeting her needs is understanding what her needs are. She has not reached the stage in her development yet where she is capable of independence or desirous of it. The attachment parent recognizes this need and attends to her accordingly.
The result of this sensitive attendance to the child’s needs is a child who has a secure foundation to begin her journey toward independence.